Wedding resources

Getting married is meant to be an exciting time. I remember when we announced our engagement to our families and friends, it was a hub of joy and excitement. It wasn't long after we got engaged that my family and I excitedly bought loads of wedding magazines. Discussed pros and cons of what time of year to get married. What dress styles did I like? Ivory, Cream, Champagne, Colour or a variant of white?

However, the novelty of flicking through the glossy pages of wedding magazines quickly wavered. I had spent €5 on a shiny paged brochure of all things wedding related flogging their wares. It was then I realised that the wedding industry was bigger than I had ever thought possible. (Seriously, Google 'wedding' and you get 1,150,000,000 hits!)

Recently we attended a wedding show with many different vendors offering a multitude of services. I thought releasing doves, fireworks and free flowing champagne were considered personal touches to your day. Instead it has exploding into so much more. We were presented with customised glasses, balloon people, a meat wagon, sweet tables and so much more. All these added touches cost money, whether or not they would make your wedding day better or enhance your marriage? I wouldn't bet on it.

There seems to be a lot of pressure put on your wedding day as 'The Best Day of your Life'. Personally, I don't agree. I think it is a very important day when you and your partner vow to love and care for each other in the paradigms you set for your marriage, but expecting it to be the 'The Best Day of your Life' puts unnecessary pressure on a day where you should just relax and have fun with your guests. The best day of your life may be when you travel somewhere you've always wanted to go, succeed in your career goals or hold your child for the first time. Everybody is different.

People must be buying stuff like this, wedding flip flops for life yo!

Shit happens. Your dress might get dirty, guests might be late, someone who is not the bride might wear cream, someone (or several people) may get drunk and make fools of themselves. Is it really going to matter in the long run? Really?! Let your wedding day reflect you. Who cares if felt flowers aren't traditional? Or Lego isn't considered appropriate table decor? Don't want to wear white or a similar shade? Then don't. Just because something is considered 'the done thing' doesn't mean you have to do it. It's a long way down that rabbit hole so look before you leap!

After wasting money on the glossy wedding mags, I soon realised that I could get the same information and even more ideas online, for free! I read reviews, looked at forums of real brides up for discussing their experiences. No glossy magazine can do that. So why do we buy them? Well, when else are we going to? It's an exciting time, and it's hard not to get carried away with all the giddy excitement, but don't forget to explore all resources. Chat to family and friends, get information from real brides, talk to colleagues. These kind of resources are priceless.